Small Discussions About Ambition And Greed

Another story I know is about the accuracy of the self-report strategy. There are many personality tests online which help us to find the strength and the weakness of ourselves. One of the trustful websites is 16  Personalities where people answer questions about their habits and thinkings. I have done it several times on this website and to check if the result can go differently. Compare to other tests, I believe in its precision. However, after representing this test to my friends, I had feedbacks such as "the second result was so different from the first one", or after I told them my result and it happened to be their wishing result, "let me take it back again. I must misunderstand some questions". I also know a person who took the test twice and from a self-centred type of person, she "became" a caring one who always thought about others' feelings. There is another person who took the test several times in a row and finally went to the section which had all the character types and tried to find one that matched her personality.  In general, self-report only works when we admit the truth about ourselves. The wishing results might come after attempts but only us who know what happens behind them.
FROM THE STORY:
FIRST DISCUSSION:
What do we always want to be somebody else? The answer is simple. "Enough" is not a word that likely appears in our cognition. Positively saying, it's our ambition. Exemplifying for this definition is when we want to get into an Ivy League school or become a founder of a top company. Vice versa, it is called "greed". Hence, including something a bit too much such as ruining the world. When we think of greed, we think of immoral thoughts and determination. Take a closer look at this, we never perceive a person who hasn't achieved one of their goals a greedy one. A baby repeatedly crying for more sweet treats is an example of this definition. In other words, we assert greed when a subject who has achieved one of their aims dramatically expand their wanting inappropriately.
SECOND DISCUSSION:
The ambition and greed give us different feelings when there are changes. Hence, if an ambitious goal is replaced, it’s neutral. It can be the case that the person realizes their actual potentials or have another path. On the other hand, when a greedy wish is changed, people are released. Because their intense feelings are faded when acknowledging the greed of someone. From our anxiety and worry, we seem to believe the negative consequences have higher chances to occur.     

Eurus Thach

Reasoning System and Child's Development

If we put an individual in an environment that does not fit him or her well, how will his or her development be influenced? In the book Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development, Rothbart states, “the effectiveness of a coping strategy, however, will depend on the amount of control the child can reasonably have their own behavior and the events he or she experiences” (p. 161). Hence, it is a very familiar phenomenon that children replicate the actions of the people around them. Many of us believe that the replicate will build up their habits and characters. It is hard to deny. However, it is only a part of the truth. In fact, according to Rothbart, the reasoning system decides them all. In other words, we do things that make sense to us.

To build up such a system, it allows the input of information. For example, a child sees a man crossing the street illegally in order to catch up on the bus. It is reasonable for the man to do so because of the rush. So the problem is how we can get the child to understand that laws matter more or an accident might occur. There needs to be a proper explanation. So whose responsibility is it? The parents, the caregivers, friends, and close acquaintance or even a stranger can play a part in this process. Therefore, the worse they play this role, the darker the child’s future is: “The child lives in a network of relationships with siblings, peers, and adults and is continually evaluating his or her qualities in relation to these people, while identifying selectively with some of them” (Kagan, p. 275). It is assertable that the nature-nurture fit is essential in child development. However, the reasoning system is the main focus. With the right basis of reasoning, the right outcome, behaviours and thinkings, will come after.     

REFERENCES:

Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.

Rothbart, M. K. (2011). Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.     

Eurus Thach.

"'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” written by Michael Kimmel

After reading "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” written by Michael Kimmel in the book Reading America from page 540 to 549, I get to know more about how young men have to sacrifice their joy for the Guy Code. According to Kimmel, the Guy Code consists of the suppression of compassion, nurturance, vulnerability and dependency. The Guy Code is used to push their masculinity by the fathers, coaches, brothers, etc. Hence, since the early ages, boys have to resist their emotions and pain. Consequently, a report in Kimmel's article reveals, the higher the pressure gets, the higher psychological problems rate get in boys. Specifically, it is the judgment from the other men base on the Negative Playbook of Guyland. It’s a list contain the stereotypes of a lack-of-masculinity model. Kimmel implies that avoiding the list means boys can be safe from being put down through names like "loser" or "faggot". That is the reason why Homophobia remarkably raises among American guys. Homophobia occurs when people misperceive our gender. To get rid of the fear, taking risks is a popular choice between young men. In general, "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” claims that masculinity is required to be not only a standard made by society but also the dignity of a man, which is the thing that needs reconsidering.

The report in the near end of the article is surprising. As we usually acknowledge, girls always show more difficulties controlling their emotions than boys. However, Michael Kimmel reveals, the rate of psychological and suicidal problems in boys is higher than in girls. Specifically, in this gender, according to the article, the dropout and emotional disturbance are four times higher than in others. Since the Guy Code training, the young men have had to practice to conceal their feelings. The disconnection to the feelings brings boys such a tolerance that is getting more intense. In conclusion, from the article, we understand that there is a border that needs setting up. 
Eurus Thach

My "Media Diet"

In this 21st century, it is hard for us not to involve in any form of media. Hence, media plays an essential role in our lives. It appears in many categories like information, news, education, entertainment, etc. Since the remarkable growth of technology, mass media become more favourable and appreciated. It brings both pros and cons to many people including me.

My journey with media began by its classic form- books. It was until the age of thirteen that I sincerely enjoyed books. Although the first book I picked was the romantic one, later on, my type was switched to literature and detective novels. The Old Man And The Sea of Ernest Hemingway will be the first title coming to my mind if somebody asks me to recommend he or she a book. This work revealed me a bigger picture of our beings’ extraordinary beauty of persistence. The next in the list will be The Silence Of The Lambs and Hannibal written by Thomas Harris. Entering the work of Harris, I feel like walking in the world of many categories of knowledge such as entomology, history, poetry, etc. However, the main focus is all on psychology. Books are the motivation in the process of shaping my thinking and personality. In other words, books complete me. Behind every story is a valuable lesson for life. The specific characteristics of this media form I favour are slow, deep and sophisticated. I always spend time reading. However, since I entered the world of the Internet, a part of my reading time has been shared with social media.

Facebook, Instagram, Youtube and Netflix are all the transportations that bring me the news, education and entertainment. There are also videos of talk show people, cute and funny pets or the business advisor base on your hobbies. They are high functioning. However, on the other hand, they tend to distract us from the information we look for or the beginning purpose we go online. Facebook caused me more time-consuming than I thought. Going over the newsfeed used to be the only thing I did before and after school, meals and sleep. Then one day, I figured it out that was not the way I want to spend every single day of my life. That was how the beginning of my “media diet” ran. Every time I pick up my phone and go to the newsfeed, I ask myself questions like “what am I doing?” or “do I know I’ll get nothing after doing this time-consuming process?”. Then I stop. Instead of the Internet, I spend more time with the ones I love and care. I tell myself that I should love them like it is the last day of my life. Since then, I will never regret not spending enough time with them. So whenever they are around, except for checking message or a piece of information, Facebook and Instagram do not stand a chance in my routine.

In conclusion, the media is only helpful when we know the limits and aims. It is hard for us to resist such a beautiful diversity of information and functions the social media has. To this “beneficial side” of the Internet, self-awareness is the thing we need to hold on tight.