After reading "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” written by Michael Kimmel in the book Reading America from page 540 to 549, I get to know more about how young men have to sacrifice their joy for the Guy Code. According to Kimmel, the Guy Code consists of the suppression of compassion, nurturance, vulnerability and dependency. The Guy Code is used to push their masculinity by the fathers, coaches, brothers, etc. Hence, since the early ages, boys have to resist their emotions and pain. Consequently, a report in Kimmel's article reveals, the higher the pressure gets, the higher psychological problems rate get in boys. Specifically, it is the judgment from the other men base on the Negative Playbook of Guyland. It’s a list contain the stereotypes of a lack-of-masculinity model. Kimmel implies that avoiding the list means boys can be safe from being put down through names like "loser" or "faggot". That is the reason why Homophobia remarkably raises among American guys. Homophobia occurs when people misperceive our gender. To get rid of the fear, taking risks is a popular choice between young men. In general, "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” claims that masculinity is required to be not only a standard made by society but also the dignity of a man, which is the thing that needs reconsidering.
The report in the near end of the article is surprising. As we usually acknowledge, girls always show more difficulties controlling their emotions than boys. However, Michael Kimmel reveals, the rate of psychological and suicidal problems in boys is higher than in girls. Specifically, in this gender, according to the article, the dropout and emotional disturbance are four times higher than in others. Since the Guy Code training, the young men have had to practice to conceal their feelings. The disconnection to the feelings brings boys such a tolerance that is getting more intense. In conclusion, from the article, we understand that there is a border that needs setting up.
Eurus Thach
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