Royals

Judgment is a part of our daily lives. Judgment, in a myriad of cases, ends up creating stereotypes about an individual or a group of individuals. They, the victim of this social crisis, receive unexpected and inappropriate "notes" about themselves without any grateful attitudes in response. Many “inappropriate” individuals endeavour for a different and a better look at them. However, success can never be ensured. “Royals”, performed by Lorde, is about the feelings of these victims, who just desperately give up fighting against the stereotypes.

The benefit of the stereotypes, the general knowledge about a group of individuals, might help us expect the characteristics of the people we are about to interact. On the other hand, it decreases the self-confidence of many individuals in the community. The chorus of the song “Royals” states that the dream of being a ruler doesn’t “run in our blood” to the people who are not “proud of their address” in “a torn up town” which has no “postcode envy”. A place with “no postcode envy” is a place which is poor and fancy is always a dream. The next clue, “torn up town”, reveals not only the view of the people from the higher class but also reveals the acceptance of the sad reality of the people in the town about their own identities. However, the acceptance here is not a choice. Growing up in such a place, these people never receive envy from others, neither of the living qualities or the characteristics. The lyrics also add phrases “but every song’s like” and “but everybody's like” after revealing the real life behind the listed “fantasies”. The word “but” shows the failure of bringing out the best in the people mentioned in the song. Moreover, it also their sigh, their desperation toward the false images sticking with them. What is the consequence of this? Stereotypes result in the incomplete view of an individual. Consequently, the ascribed statuses, which describes where an individual comes from and his or her culture, accidentally make the achieved statuses, achievements of an individual, less important and considerable.

In conclusion, the stereotype is a kind of information that one individual acknowledges about another. Therefore, it wouldn’t be a mistake to have those ideas, it would be more likely to be seen as a narrow view of the world. Therefore, the more stereotypes we have, the less we see the world. Through the song “Royals”, Lorde has demonstrated a sociological perspective by emphasizing the "notes" which are stuck on us. Especially, the people in the song who are expected to have “cristal, Maybach, diamonds on your timepiece; jet planes, islands, tigers on a gold leash” while living in the "no postcode envy" place. To the problem that remained unsolved in our current society, the stereotypes, perhaps we just try to focus on our own goals and lives. Hence, “we don't care, we're driving Cadillacs in our dreams”. 

Eurus Thach

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments (Part III)

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments

Eurus Thach

March 18th, 2019

Improvements in treatments for Children

 The Childhood Domestic Violence Association (n.d.) reports, “approximately 15 million children are growing up with domestic violence in the U.S. alone” (“Getting Started”, para. 3). The Change a Life Program founded by this association suggests four main steps for the helpers and caregivers to help their children who experience such violent scenes. 

The Change a Life Program Steps 

Step one, “learn”. The Childhood Domestic Violence Association (n.d.) shares that the first step is having a discussion with children about their domestic violence situations. Step two is called “connect”. The second step is about digging deep into the child’s emotions and helping him or her control the situation. The third step is the “support” stage. Children will be provided with skills and real-life examples. The final step, “help”, is about building children a social support network, inspiring and encouraging them through role models. This is a patient process that requires a lot of effort and caring attitudes. Eventually, the results always worth it.

The role model 

The role model effect provided at the end of the Change a Life Program does not only include the caregivers or people around but also includes unrealistic characters. In fact, the role model can be used throughout the four-step process of the Change a Life Program. In case a child resists telling the helpers and caregivers his or her feelings or learning necessary skills, bringing their role models will create a more sympathetic affair for the conversation. By then, it is more relaxing for a child to share their vulnerable experience and pick up the lessons. According to White, Prager, Schaefer, Kross, Duckworth, Carlson (2017), from May 2012 to January 2013, reports studying the relation between role play and learning in children. Though all kinds of role models are equally important, White, Prager, Schaefer, Kross, Duckworth, Carlson (2017)’s research focuses on impersonating role models. However, there are still opposing views on impersonating role models. The reason, in their opinions, is fictional characters are not perfect enough. Apple Belle (2017) writes, “Batman is the most ‘human’ superhero -in that he has no powers and no perfect standards of morality- his status as a role model for children is actually highly questionable” (para. 8). However, White et al. (2017)’s experiment proves the opposite. 

In this experiment, the children were asked to participate in a difficult and helpful task but “was modified to be long and boring”. When the children wondered if they "were being a good helper", the authors assume, “this reflection was most successful when it involved impersonating a character” (White et al., 2017). A child's favourite characters affect his or her attitude. Since then, they mirror and learn the traits intrinsically. By linking the model to the child’s cognitive process, it becomes reasonable to learn. Then it goes from all the work of the reasoning system to the child’s behaviors. As long as the child feels good about his or her role model’s choice, he or she can get benefits from them regardless of others’ opinions. That is the difference between the reasoning system of a child and an adult. 

The reasoning system 

In order to interpret a child's perspective and their emotions, caregivers and helpers need to understand his or her reasoning system. The reasoning system includes the thinking and analysis of a child toward a situation. In her work, Rothbart (2011) states, “the effectiveness of a coping strategy, however, will depend on the amount of control the child can reasonably have their own behavior and the events he or she experiences” (p. 161). Hence, since early ages, it is a very familiar phenomenon that children replicate the actions from people around them. Many of us believe that the replicate will build up their habits and characters. It is hard to deny. However, it is only a part of the truth. In fact, according to Rothbart, the reasoning system decides them all.

Building up such a system requires the input of information. For example, a child sees a man crossing the street illegally in order to catch up on the bus. It is reasonable for the man to do so because of the rush. So the problem is how to get the child to understand that laws matter more or an accident might occur. There needs to be a proper explanation. The parents, the caregivers, friends, and close acquaintance or even a stranger can play a part in this process. In other words, the worse they play this role, the darker the child’s future is: “The child lives in a network of relationships with siblings, peers, and adults and is continually evaluating his or her qualities in relation to these people, while identifying selectively with some of them” (Kagan, 1984, p. 275). It is assertable that the nature-nurture fit is essential in child development and the reasoning system is its only root. With the right basis of reasoning, the right outcome, behaviors and thinkings, will come after. Therefore, as witnesses of the domestic abuse events, children have their reasoning system damaged. 

Treatments for Parent-child Aggression 

The safest way to heal parent-child aggression is through the changes of the perpetrators. Only by that way, children can confidently express their love and share their struggles with the perpetrators, which reforms the child’s perspective and the connection of the family. 

The changes of the perpetrators 

The DVCC (2011) suggests, “a pattern of jealous and controlling behavior that isolates, threatens, and frightens their partner” (para. 8). The abusers have problems controlling behaviors and performing appropriate ones. Besides the anger management, many abusers, mostly men, have to struggle with the influences from violent ads and images, especially those in the 1990s. According to Kilbourne (1999), violent ads and images “contribute to the state of terror. And objectification and disconnection create a climate in which there is widespread and increasing violence” (p. 499). In another aspect, perpetrators are also victims of domestic violence.

The Method of Lundy Bancroft 

When can the domestic violence stop? The National Domestic Violence Hotline believes that changes are possible for the perpetrators. Using Lundy Bancroft’s study, this organization (2013) shares the list including admitting actions and attitudes, making amends, developing respect and solutions for conflicts with the victims (para. 7). In order to make a success in this process, learning respect is the key. The reason is, Kilbourne (1999) shares, “turning a human being into a thing, an object, is almost always the first step toward justifying violence against that person” (p. 499). 

However, changes are not always easy. This process takes a lot of effort than it sounds. Supporting this statement, Reina Gattuso (2018) claims, “The process of genuinely changing harmful behaviors is long, slow, and difficult. It takes a lifetime to learn abusive behaviors, so unlearning those behaviors — while totally possible — takes a heck of a lot of work” (para. 10). In her paper, though Gattuso does discuss changing possibilities, she encourages the victims to save themselves more in general. The reason is breaking promises with the victims can damage their mental health heavier than previously.

Intervention Programs 

Intervention programs help the abusers by supervising and giving therapy for their anger issue. However, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (2014), success depends on the abusers' desire to change. Toward the opposing views, this organization (2014) suggests intervention programs for the abusers to learn and control their behaviors through anger management and Batterer Intervention & Prevention Programs (BIPPs). 

Conclusion 

Consequently, domestic violence gives children liabilities in learning and problems processing emotion. Domestic violence directly attacks their mental health, which leaves children scars into adulthood. Fortunately, children do not have to suffer all the pain alone. They have organizations and laws to strengthen their voices. Besides that, there are intervention programs for the abusers to improve their anger management, which heals the parent-child aggression. There still remains incompletions in these treatments. However, though these programs eventually work, it is still hard for children to forget the past. How can they accept the fact that the abusers are supposed to be the ones they love? The parent-child aggression, one of the domestic violence's results, make it difficult for children to reconnect with their caregivers and others, especially the abusers. 

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References: (the whole research)

Apple Belle. (2017). Superhero Standards: Unrealistic Role Models or Inspirers of Morality? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://applebelleblog.wordpress.com/2017/09/29/superhero-standards-unrealistic-role-models-or-inspirers-of-morality/.

Boyce, W. T. (2019, January 2). Orchids and Dandelions. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201901/orchids-and-dandelions.

Child Domestic Violence Association. (2014). 10 Startling Statistics about Children of Domestic Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://cdv.org/2014/02/10-startling-domestic-violence-statistics-for-children/.

Child Domestic Violence Association. (n.d.). Change a Life Program [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://changealife.cdv.org/.

Child Witness to Violence Project. (n.d.). Social Impact & History: History of Services for Children who are Exposed to Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://www.childwitnesstoviolence.org/social-impact--history.html.

Cole, A. [TEDx Talks]. (2015, July 30). Domestic violence: a child's perspective [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cadKzL0Ec00&t=53.

Domestic Violence Coordinating Council. (2011). Dynamics of Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence Coordinating Council. Retrieved from https://dvcc.delaware.gov/background-purpose/dynamics-domestic-abuse/.

Gattuso, R. (2018). My Abusive Partner Promises They’ll Change. Will They? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.talkspace.com/blog/abusive-partner-promises-change/.

Greydanus, D., Palusci, V., Merrick, J. (2017). Chronic Disease and Disability : Abuse and Neglect in Childhood and Adolescence. Nova Science Publishers, Inc.

Hamby, S. (2015, July). Why Can Domestic Violence Get Passed From Parent to Child? Psychology Today, The Web of Violence. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-web-violence/201507/why-can-domestic-violence-get-passed-parent-child.

Jaffe, P. G., Baker, L. L., & Cunningham, A. J. (Eds.). (2004). Protecting children from domestic violence: Strategies for community intervention. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.

Jouriles, E. N., Barling, J., & O'Leary, K. D. (1987). Predicting child behavior problems in maritally violent families. Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 15(2), 165-173. Retrieved from Google Scholar: http://dx.doi.org/10.1007/BF00916346.

Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.

Kilbourne, J. (2016). Two Ways a Woman Can Get Hurt: Advertising and Violence. Rereading America: Cultural Contexts For Critical Thinking and Writing 10th edition, 488-513.

Little, J. (2017). Understanding domestic violence in rural spaces. Progress in Human Geography, 41(4), 472-488. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.

McCoy, D. C., Raver, C. C. (2011) Caregiver Emotional Expressiveness, Child Emotion Regulation, and Child Behavior Problems among Head Start Families. Social Development, 20(4), 741-761, doi:10.1111/j.1467-9507.2011.00608.x. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.

Rothbart, K. M. (2011). Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press. 

The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2014). Intervention Programs for Abusive Behavior [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.thehotline.org/2014/07/03/intervention-programs-for-abusive-behavior/.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2013). Is Change Possible In An Abuser? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.thehotline.org/2013/09/05/is-change-possible-in-an-abuser/.

White, R. E., Prager, E. O., Schaefer, C., Kross, E., Duckworth, A. L., Carlson, S. M. (2017, September/October). The "Batman Effect": Improving Perseverance in Young Children. Child Development, doi: 00093920, 88(5). Retrieved from EBSCOhost. 

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments (Part I)

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments
Eurus Thach
Mar 18th, 2019

Abstract

The basis of this studies the effect of domestic violence on children and the improvements needed in treatment programs. The contribution of magazine articles, academic journals, books, websites, and organizations highlights that treatments only work with the understanding and awareness of the child’s perspective. Children do not view a subject as the way adults do. Children process trauma, emotions, and reality differently so as to learn to grow. Especially, because they do not think opening up about their feelings is a way to deal with this sensitive topic. The wrong approach can lead to a greater distance between the helpers or caregivers and the child, which causes child-parent aggression, which results in the prevalence of treatment-resistant disorders, such as depression, trauma-related problems, and brain damage. Understanding the way a child approaches a problem helps to create appropriate methods to discuss and support him or her. In relation to children, the treatments of abusers could help children recover a semblance of a parent-child relationship, which is vital for their emotional growth. How does a child perceive a subject? How does he or she face domestic violence? What are the improvements in treatments these children need?

Domestic Violence Is Threatening Healthy Lives of Children

Children are society's first priority and the problems concerning their physical and mental health gain the most attention; domestic violence is a nightmare that damages both. According to the Childhood Domestic Violence Association (2014), millions of children in the United States cry themselves to sleep every night under a roof that houses domestic violence. Throughout centuries, researchers and the government never stopped attempting to prevent domestic abuse events and to deal with their consequences. Despite that, domestic violence still remains a crisis without effective solutions. Whether children were bystanders or victims, they have to suffer the biological and psychological issues. So, how do children cope with domestic violence?

Background

History

Domestic violence has been a long-lasting crisis in the community. The support for children now and in the past is very different. Beginning in the late 1980s, according to the Child Witness to Violence Project Organization (CWVP) (n.d.), a lot of research about the domestic violence effect on children as “bystanders” was released (para. 1). Before that, children grew up experiencing the unequal “logic” of domestic violence. Between the 1970s and 1980s, the “logic of injury”, Little (2017) claims, reinforced “a victim-blaming response to domestic violence by seeing the injured body as compliant and passive” (p. 479). Hence, previously, when a child was a victim of this crisis, there weren’t many chances that he or she would get support. It happened the same way with partners. In case children were not the victims, they had to witness their mothers suffering the pain on their own, which caused them gloomy memories and affected their mental health. Fortunately, there was a brighter movement in the 1990s. Little (2017) reports that the “logic of health” was considered in domestic violence: “While the shift to a logic of health was positive in moving away from accusations of victim passivity and for recognizing the longer-term effects of violence, its ‘somatic flexibility’, according to Sweet (2014: 44), ‘creates spaces into which new forms of blame and self-responsibility can take shape’” (p. 479).

Although domestic violence did not gain much attention at the time, there were still actions to protect children from domestic violence. Especially, the CWVP (n.d.) reveals, in 1982, The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence formed a Child Advocacy Task Force to support these “bystanders”. Since the 1980s, the child protection toward this crisis has had a remarkable movement. Thanks to the contributions, the community started to understand more about the perspective of the susceptible children as witnesses and the effect of domestic violence on child development.

Mental and Physical Health

What Kagan (1984) points out it is that “the child’s knowledge, moral evaluations, and inferences about the causes of his or her current mood” that form his or her interpretations to each “emotionally significant experience,” such as family violence (pp. 275- 276). Therefore, the results of this process turn out to be various. The worst situation would be the diffusion of negative interpretations. The author of the article Orchids and Dandelions, Boyce (2019), reports:

Nearly 34,000 children from Manitoba, Canada, five-minute Apgar scores were predictive of teacher-reported developmental vulnerability at age 5 for a variety of developmental dimensions”. In general, these experiences impede the ability to learning skill, as it also does to the mental and physical health throughout our lifetime. (paras. 3, 10)

Although Boyce (2019) mentions “a variety of developmental dimensions,” his paper mainly focuses on the “emotionally significant experience”. By acknowledging Boyce’s article and interpretations from all the work above, a child with a lack of emotional support has difficulties leading life and overcoming challenges. 

Biological privilege

Fortunately, not every child ends up the same. There are possibilities that children who are “about one in five”, also written in the article, have remarkable susceptibility to being “highly sensitive to adverse events”. With this biological privilege, they can achieve success in nurturant (Boyce, 2019, paras. 5, 6). This resilience seems to be a perfect stimulus for the emotional growth in these “orchid children”.  In general, during the unfortunate event, with a strong emotional basis, other positive forces have opportunities to win the child’s mind. However, how many children are lucky enough to have immediate support or this biological privilege?

Organization

Child Witness to Violence Project organization (CWVP)

Child Witness to Violence Project (CWVP) is an organization helps children overcome their trauma-related syndromes from domestic violence. Beginning in 1992, they have provided help to over 150 children each year. Besides their main treatment as therapy, the organization also provides the caregivers with specific guidance to connect with their children during such unfortunate events. Another purpose of the CWVP is increasing community responses through statistics and stories about susceptible children.

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References: (the whole research)
Apple Belle. (2017). Superhero Standards: Unrealistic Role Models or Inspirers of Morality? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://applebelleblog.wordpress.com/2017/09/29/superhero-standards-unrealistic-role-models-or-inspirers-of-morality/.
Boyce, W. T. (2019, January 2). Orchids and Dandelions. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201901/orchids-and-dandelions.
Child Domestic Violence Association. (2014). 10 Startling Statistics about Children of Domestic Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://cdv.org/2014/02/10-startling-domestic-violence-statistics-for-children/.
Child Domestic Violence Association. (n.d.). Change a Life Program [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://changealife.cdv.org/.
Child Witness to Violence Project. (n.d.). Social Impact & History: History of Services for Children who are Exposed to Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://www.childwitnesstoviolence.org/social-impact--history.html.
Cole, A. [TEDx Talks]. (2015, July 30). Domestic violence: a child's perspective [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cadKzL0Ec00&t=53.
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council. (2011). Dynamics of Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence Coordinating Council. Retrieved from https://dvcc.delaware.gov/background-purpose/dynamics-domestic-abuse/.
Gattuso, R. (2018). My Abusive Partner Promises They’ll Change. Will They? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.talkspace.com/blog/abusive-partner-promises-change/.
Greydanus, D., Palusci, V., Merrick, J. (2017). Chronic Disease and Disability : Abuse and Neglect in Childhood and Adolescence. Nova Science Publishers, Inc.
Hamby, S. (2015, July). Why Can Domestic Violence Get Passed From Parent to Child? Psychology Today, The Web of Violence. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-web-violence/201507/why-can-domestic-violence-get-passed-parent-child.
Jaffe, P. G., Baker, L. L., & Cunningham, A. J. (Eds.). (2004). Protecting children from domestic violence: Strategies for community intervention. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.
Jouriles, E. N., Barling, J., & O'Leary, K. D. (1987). Predicting child behavior problems in maritally violent families. Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 15(2), 165-173. Retrieved from Google Scholar: http://dx.doi.org/10.1007/BF00916346.
Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.
Kilbourne, J. (2016). Two Ways a Woman Can Get Hurt: Advertising and Violence. Rereading America: Cultural Contexts For Critical Thinking and Writing 10th edition, 488-513.
Little, J. (2017). Understanding domestic violence in rural spaces. Progress in Human Geography, 41(4), 472-488. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.
McCoy, D. C., Raver, C. C. (2011) Caregiver Emotional Expressiveness, Child Emotion Regulation, and Child Behavior Problems among Head Start Families. Social Development, 20(4), 741-761, doi:10.1111/j.1467-9507.2011.00608.x. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.
Rothbart, K. M. (2011). Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2014). Intervention Programs for Abusive Behavior [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.thehotline.org/2014/07/03/intervention-programs-for-abusive-behavior/.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2013). Is Change Possible In An Abuser? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.thehotline.org/2013/09/05/is-change-possible-in-an-abuser/.
White, R. E., Prager, E. O., Schaefer, C., Kross, E., Duckworth, A. L., Carlson, S. M. (2017, September/October). The "Batman Effect": Improving Perseverance in Young Children. Child Development, doi: 00093920, 88(5). Retrieved from EBSCOhost. 

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments (Part II)

Domestic Violence Effect On Children and Parent-child Aggression, and Treatments

Eurus Thach

March 18th, 2019

Literature Review

Millions of children out there are suffering domestic violence every day. Domestic violence, when it comes to children, gives them no choice of either staying or running away. It is a cruel challenge that children have to learn how to adapt. To be adaptive to such an environment, they have to trade their physical and mental health. Besides that, it costs children the ideal relationship between them and their caregivers, which results in parent-child aggression. The reason is the emotional expressions between to subjects in that relationship relate to each other. The pressure, the parent-child aggression,  makes children keep their mental and physical problems to themselves and becomes susceptible adults.

       

Summary

A child learns emotional expressions from the caregiver.  McCoy and Raver (2011) state, “greater frequency of positive caregiver emotional expressiveness has been linked with greater emotion regulation, more adaptive behavioral competence, and fewer behavioral problems in children” (p. 743). A child learns and modifies the emotional expressions from the caregiver. On the other hand, a poor emotional performance from the caregiver evokes negative thinking and the negative reaction of the child. What makes a poor emotional performance? It is when a child witnesses his or her caregiver’s gloomy expression such as sorrow or aggression toward a problem. McCoy and Raver (2011) reveal that the performances of frustration, fear, or anxiety shape "children’s responses to emotionally arousing stimuli in ways that may be proximally adaptive but that may also compromise children’s longer-term functioning” (p. 744). One wrong step can push the process of shaping a child’s thinking further to undesirable development. In the end, it produces heavy, child mental problems. That is how parent-child aggression is built up. 

In all dimensions, domestic violence causes the heaviest damage and consequences to children. What is worse than a child suffering unsteady feelings among abusive events? Jaffe, Baker and Cunningham (2004) state the following:

52% of 144 mothers reported that their children yelled from another room during abusive events at least occasionally, and 24% reported their children frequently yelled from another room. Twenty-one percent of the mother reported their children called someone else for help during the abuse at least occasionally, and 6% reported they did so frequently. (p. 14) 

When domestic violence occurs, children bottle up their feelings toward their caregivers, suffer the pain on their own. They keep doing so until they reach the threshold of their tolerance. Hence, they yell, which is the easiest way to relieve their feelings. To them, sharing feelings with their caregivers is not the best option. It is not because they do not want to, they just do not know how to let them out gently.   

Besides the difficulty handling the damaged emotions, in the article of Jouriles, Barling, and O'Leary (1987), children also have a high chance of developing psychological problems: “Parent-child aggression in families of antisocial children compared to families of control groups (Patterson, 1982), and children exposed to parental aggression have consistently been found to show more behavior problems” (p. 166). Parent-child aggression involves not only in the present mental health but also the long-term impact. Hamby (2015) shares, “a child who grows up in a violent home might be a violent adult” (para. 5). How does domestic violence relate to parent-child aggression? Jouriles, Barling, and O'Leary (1987) explain that interspousal aggression strongly connects with parent-child aggression (p. 166). Domestic family stresses out the parent-child aggression, which affects the child, and the affected child grows up and steps in the community with violence and unhealthy mental life.

Studying about community responses means studying the community’s recent reactions and attention to this crisis. Since then, there should be more improvements to domestic violence. Besides the people, the government has taken this seriously. There have been several changes in U.S. law. However, they occur slowly. While the domestic violence researches appeared in the 1980s, it took the U.S. a decade to improve and proceed with the law.  According to Jaffe, Baker, and Cunningham (2004), in 1997, a Utah law was passed and treated an adult who exhibited more than once domestically violent behavior like an offender. After the law, Jaffe, Baker, and Cunningham (2004) reports, the desired effect has been achieved through the decrease in the amounts of domestic violence (p. 17). The twenty-first century is nominated as a safer time for children in the world. Despite that, the lack of responses in the community is still undeniable. In her TED Talk speech, Abi Cole (2015) asserts, there are 38% domestic violence cases that the police leave the perpetrators with just warnings. “Only a quarter of reported incidents”, Cole (2015) continues, “results in the rest; and a mere 4%... results in conviction”. That is clear proof that this crisis needs more attention from the government.    

What about the view of the community on the cause of domestic violence? Surrounding that main factor is others like interspousal conflicts and learning adults’ violent behaviors. Into details, Greydanus, Palusci, and Merrick (2017) assume factors that draw the crisis are “limited education in parenting skills as well as an underlying milieu in human history of extreme violence and aggression” (p. 108). More speech appears to encourage and help the children overcome this hard time. It is good news that nowadays civilization allows people to have caring attitudes toward this crisis. In spite of that, Abi Cole (2015) reveals that there are a lot of cases the witnesses choose not to involve in the situation. Sadly, the ignorance of the community accidentally strengthens the perpetrators’ power, which makes it hard to put a complete stop on domestic violence.     

Discussion and Evaluation

Most of the research agrees that children might copy behaviors and learn emotional responses from caregivers. In the domestic violence angle, Hamby (2015) interprets, “they see adults use violence to get their way and social learning theory would suggest that kids will copy that behavior” (para. 5). She uses the social learning theory to support her claim. In lieu of using the same method, Jouriles, Barling, and O'Leary (1987) accomplish their study about parent-child aggression based on many others’ researches and experiments. So do Greydanus, Palusci, and Merrick (2017). This work relates the process to “limited education on parenting skills” and “underlying milieu in human history” (p. 108). Although they do agree that the expressiveness from the caregivers non-linearly connects to this learning process (pp. 743-744). No child wants to replicate domestically violent behaviors from the adults. However, how do they resist the process while the abusive events keep being on loop? It is an unconscious process that is hard to fight against. 

This is also the why reason appropriate community responses are essential. Jaffe, Bake, and Cunningham (2004) tend to focus more on the improvement of community responses. They provide organizations and the laws fighting against this crisis. The work by Greydanus, Palusci, and Merrick (2017) also chose community attention as their aim. However, instead of naming supportive foundations, it mostly reviews the timeline of domestic violence. Jaffe, Bake, and Cunningham ’s work (2004) lacks information about the process of modifying caregivers’ emotional expressions. On the other hand, they show their interest in the psychological effect of domestic violence on child development. Like other research in this essay, they assume that this has a long-term impact on mental life (p. 11). Community responses reveal the way people connect with each other. It is hard to get in one’s shoes, but never too hard to respect and protect them.

Proposed Research Question

The further question this research brings forth is what kind of understanding and awareness of a child’s perspective of domestic violence is needed to help improve the treatments for them. This piece of information might be missing due to the psychological complexity of an individual. Besides the improvements in children’s treatment, intervention programs for abusers are also helping children heal parent-child aggression. Studying this specific problem asks for deep and highly-educated work. Since then, the research can end up collecting various aspects of a child. The reason this question is significant is that it strongly relates to parent-child aggression and child cognitive development. Understanding this problem means understanding the whole picture of domestic violence, which helps improve community responses.

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References: (the whole research)

Apple Belle. (2017). Superhero Standards: Unrealistic Role Models or Inspirers of Morality? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://applebelleblog.wordpress.com/2017/09/29/superhero-standards-unrealistic-role-models-or-inspirers-of-morality/.

Boyce, W. T. (2019, January 2). Orchids and Dandelions. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201901/orchids-and-dandelions.

Child Domestic Violence Association. (2014). 10 Startling Statistics about Children of Domestic Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://cdv.org/2014/02/10-startling-domestic-violence-statistics-for-children/.

Child Domestic Violence Association. (n.d.). Change a Life Program [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://changealife.cdv.org/.

Child Witness to Violence Project. (n.d.). Social Impact & History: History of Services for Children who are Exposed to Violence [Blog post]. Retrieved from http://www.childwitnesstoviolence.org/social-impact--history.html.

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Gattuso, R. (2018). My Abusive Partner Promises They’ll Change. Will They? [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.talkspace.com/blog/abusive-partner-promises-change/.

Greydanus, D., Palusci, V., Merrick, J. (2017). Chronic Disease and Disability : Abuse and Neglect in Childhood and Adolescence. Nova Science Publishers, Inc.

Hamby, S. (2015, July). Why Can Domestic Violence Get Passed From Parent to Child? Psychology Today, The Web of Violence. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-web-violence/201507/why-can-domestic-violence-get-passed-parent-child.

Jaffe, P. G., Baker, L. L., & Cunningham, A. J. (Eds.). (2004). Protecting children from domestic violence: Strategies for community intervention. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.

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Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.

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Rothbart, K. M. (2011). Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press. 

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White, R. E., Prager, E. O., Schaefer, C., Kross, E., Duckworth, A. L., Carlson, S. M. (2017, September/October). The "Batman Effect": Improving Perseverance in Young Children. Child Development, doi: 00093920, 88(5). Retrieved from EBSCOhost. 

Child Developmental Dimensions Small Discussion

Kagan points out it is “the child’s knowledge, moral evaluations, and inferences about the causes of his or her current mood” that form his or her interpretations to each “emotionally significant experience”, such as family violence (1984, pp. 275- 276). Therefore, the results of this process turn out to be various. The worst situation would be the diffusion of negative interpretations. The author of the article Orchids and Dandelions reports that “careful epidemiologic work by one of my doctoral students and a former postdoctoral fellow has found that in nearly 34,000 children from Manitoba, Canada, five-minute Apgar scores were predictive of teacher-reported developmental vulnerability at age 5 for a variety of developmental dimensions”. In general, these experiences impede the ability to learning skill, as it also does to the mental and physical health throughout our lifetime (Boyce, 2019, par 3, 10). Although Boyce mentions “a variety of developmental dimensions”, his paper mainly focuses on the “emotionally significant experience”. As we acknowledge from Boyce’s article and interpretations from all the work above, a child with a lack of emotional support has difficulties leading life and overcoming challenges.

Fortunately, not every child ends up the same. There are possibilities that children who are “about one in five”, also written in the article, have remarkably susceptibility to “highly sensitive to adverse events”. With this biological privilege, they can achieve success in nurturant (Boyce, 2019, par 5, 6). This resilience seems to be a perfect stimulus for the development of the reasoning system in these “orchid children”.  In general, during the unfortunate event, with a strong emotional basis, other positive forces have opportunities to win the child’s mind. To those whose genes do not cover resilience, we can train them to be persevering. The reason is the process of being resilient includes the perseverance. Perseverance is known as a trait of facing and overcoming difficulties.

According to the article The "Batman Effect": Improving Perseverance in Young Children, from May 2012 to January 2013, the result from the experiment studying the relation between role play and perseverance in children supported the view that the perseverance is “a skill that is accessible to even very young children”. In this experiment, the children were asked to participate in a hard-working and helpful but “was modified to be long and boring”. When the children wondered if they "were being a good helper", the authors assume, “this reflection was most successful when it involved impersonating a character” (White, Prager, Schaefer, Kross, Duckworth, Carlson, 2017). To conclude, a child's favourable characters affect his or her attitude. Since then, they mirror and learn the trait intrinsically. By linking the model to the child’s cognitive process, it becomes reasonable to learn. Then it goes from all the work of the reasoning system to the child’s behaviors.

References:

Boyce, W. T. (2019, January 2). Orchids and Dandelions. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201901/orchids-and-dandelions.

Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.

White, R. E., Prager, E. O., Schaefer, C., Kross, E., Duckworth, A. L., Carlson, S. M. (2017, September/October). The "Batman Effect": Improving Perseverance in Young Children. Child Development, 00093920, 88(5). Retrieved from https://web-a-ebscohost-com.ezproxy.greenriver.edu/ehost/detail/detail?vid=1&sid=dabcfa35-c22e-4929-ac42-9a252b24d38d%40sessionmgr4009&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZSZzY29wZT1zaXRl#AN=124970333&db=tfh.

Eurus Thach.

Small Discussions About Ambition And Greed

Another story I know is about the accuracy of the self-report strategy. There are many personality tests online which help us to find the strength and the weakness of ourselves. One of the trustful websites is 16  Personalities where people answer questions about their habits and thinkings. I have done it several times on this website and to check if the result can go differently. Compare to other tests, I believe in its precision. However, after representing this test to my friends, I had feedbacks such as "the second result was so different from the first one", or after I told them my result and it happened to be their wishing result, "let me take it back again. I must misunderstand some questions". I also know a person who took the test twice and from a self-centred type of person, she "became" a caring one who always thought about others' feelings. There is another person who took the test several times in a row and finally went to the section which had all the character types and tried to find one that matched her personality.  In general, self-report only works when we admit the truth about ourselves. The wishing results might come after attempts but only us who know what happens behind them.
FROM THE STORY:
FIRST DISCUSSION:
What do we always want to be somebody else? The answer is simple. "Enough" is not a word that likely appears in our cognition. Positively saying, it's our ambition. Exemplifying for this definition is when we want to get into an Ivy League school or become a founder of a top company. Vice versa, it is called "greed". Hence, including something a bit too much such as ruining the world. When we think of greed, we think of immoral thoughts and determination. Take a closer look at this, we never perceive a person who hasn't achieved one of their goals a greedy one. A baby repeatedly crying for more sweet treats is an example of this definition. In other words, we assert greed when a subject who has achieved one of their aims dramatically expand their wanting inappropriately.
SECOND DISCUSSION:
The ambition and greed give us different feelings when there are changes. Hence, if an ambitious goal is replaced, it’s neutral. It can be the case that the person realizes their actual potentials or have another path. On the other hand, when a greedy wish is changed, people are released. Because their intense feelings are faded when acknowledging the greed of someone. From our anxiety and worry, we seem to believe the negative consequences have higher chances to occur.     

Eurus Thach

Reasoning System and Child's Development

If we put an individual in an environment that does not fit him or her well, how will his or her development be influenced? In the book Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development, Rothbart states, “the effectiveness of a coping strategy, however, will depend on the amount of control the child can reasonably have their own behavior and the events he or she experiences” (p. 161). Hence, it is a very familiar phenomenon that children replicate the actions of the people around them. Many of us believe that the replicate will build up their habits and characters. It is hard to deny. However, it is only a part of the truth. In fact, according to Rothbart, the reasoning system decides them all. In other words, we do things that make sense to us.

To build up such a system, it allows the input of information. For example, a child sees a man crossing the street illegally in order to catch up on the bus. It is reasonable for the man to do so because of the rush. So the problem is how we can get the child to understand that laws matter more or an accident might occur. There needs to be a proper explanation. So whose responsibility is it? The parents, the caregivers, friends, and close acquaintance or even a stranger can play a part in this process. Therefore, the worse they play this role, the darker the child’s future is: “The child lives in a network of relationships with siblings, peers, and adults and is continually evaluating his or her qualities in relation to these people, while identifying selectively with some of them” (Kagan, p. 275). It is assertable that the nature-nurture fit is essential in child development. However, the reasoning system is the main focus. With the right basis of reasoning, the right outcome, behaviours and thinkings, will come after.     

REFERENCES:

Kagan, J. (1984). The nature of the child. New York, NY, US: Basic Books.

Rothbart, M. K. (2011). Becoming who we are: Temperament and personality in development. New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.     

Eurus Thach.

"'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” written by Michael Kimmel

After reading "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” written by Michael Kimmel in the book Reading America from page 540 to 549, I get to know more about how young men have to sacrifice their joy for the Guy Code. According to Kimmel, the Guy Code consists of the suppression of compassion, nurturance, vulnerability and dependency. The Guy Code is used to push their masculinity by the fathers, coaches, brothers, etc. Hence, since the early ages, boys have to resist their emotions and pain. Consequently, a report in Kimmel's article reveals, the higher the pressure gets, the higher psychological problems rate get in boys. Specifically, it is the judgment from the other men base on the Negative Playbook of Guyland. It’s a list contain the stereotypes of a lack-of-masculinity model. Kimmel implies that avoiding the list means boys can be safe from being put down through names like "loser" or "faggot". That is the reason why Homophobia remarkably raises among American guys. Homophobia occurs when people misperceive our gender. To get rid of the fear, taking risks is a popular choice between young men. In general, "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” claims that masculinity is required to be not only a standard made by society but also the dignity of a man, which is the thing that needs reconsidering.

The report in the near end of the article is surprising. As we usually acknowledge, girls always show more difficulties controlling their emotions than boys. However, Michael Kimmel reveals, the rate of psychological and suicidal problems in boys is higher than in girls. Specifically, in this gender, according to the article, the dropout and emotional disturbance are four times higher than in others. Since the Guy Code training, the young men have had to practice to conceal their feelings. The disconnection to the feelings brings boys such a tolerance that is getting more intense. In conclusion, from the article, we understand that there is a border that needs setting up. 
Eurus Thach

My "Media Diet"

In this 21st century, it is hard for us not to involve in any form of media. Hence, media plays an essential role in our lives. It appears in many categories like information, news, education, entertainment, etc. Since the remarkable growth of technology, mass media become more favourable and appreciated. It brings both pros and cons to many people including me.

My journey with media began by its classic form- books. It was until the age of thirteen that I sincerely enjoyed books. Although the first book I picked was the romantic one, later on, my type was switched to literature and detective novels. The Old Man And The Sea of Ernest Hemingway will be the first title coming to my mind if somebody asks me to recommend he or she a book. This work revealed me a bigger picture of our beings’ extraordinary beauty of persistence. The next in the list will be The Silence Of The Lambs and Hannibal written by Thomas Harris. Entering the work of Harris, I feel like walking in the world of many categories of knowledge such as entomology, history, poetry, etc. However, the main focus is all on psychology. Books are the motivation in the process of shaping my thinking and personality. In other words, books complete me. Behind every story is a valuable lesson for life. The specific characteristics of this media form I favour are slow, deep and sophisticated. I always spend time reading. However, since I entered the world of the Internet, a part of my reading time has been shared with social media.

Facebook, Instagram, Youtube and Netflix are all the transportations that bring me the news, education and entertainment. There are also videos of talk show people, cute and funny pets or the business advisor base on your hobbies. They are high functioning. However, on the other hand, they tend to distract us from the information we look for or the beginning purpose we go online. Facebook caused me more time-consuming than I thought. Going over the newsfeed used to be the only thing I did before and after school, meals and sleep. Then one day, I figured it out that was not the way I want to spend every single day of my life. That was how the beginning of my “media diet” ran. Every time I pick up my phone and go to the newsfeed, I ask myself questions like “what am I doing?” or “do I know I’ll get nothing after doing this time-consuming process?”. Then I stop. Instead of the Internet, I spend more time with the ones I love and care. I tell myself that I should love them like it is the last day of my life. Since then, I will never regret not spending enough time with them. So whenever they are around, except for checking message or a piece of information, Facebook and Instagram do not stand a chance in my routine.

In conclusion, the media is only helpful when we know the limits and aims. It is hard for us to resist such a beautiful diversity of information and functions the social media has. To this “beneficial side” of the Internet, self-awareness is the thing we need to hold on tight. 

Unfamiliar Innovations Are Sensitively Noticeable

     

          Surrounding us are the myriad of impressive scientific achievements. It's undeniable that the growth of science has given us such essential movements, especially in the health category. Genetic engineering is also one of them. Since the 1970s, there have been wonders in genetic engineering. Specifically, it has helped the agricultural industry creating pesticide-resistant crops. Although the idea seems to bring us benefits, its practice is hard. Perhaps because artificial supplies are still are still new things to our people.

          It might seem that the pesticide-resistant crops are not something ultimately strange. The genetically modifying organisms might be no more than the combination between the traditional agriculture and factors of science. However, because it is an unfamiliar innovation to us, we seem to focus on its cautions than the characteristic of it.

          Hence, it appears to be a thing that hasn't approached our daily life before; therefore, its negative sides are sensitively noticeable even if there are disastrous consequences can be myths. Take LGBT as an example. Decades ago, it officially appeared in our society as an inappropriate thing to exist. However, recently, LGBT community is widely accepted and respected. Since then, it is understandable why thoughts like "strengthening organisms artificially can affect the natural balance of ecosystems" without clear proofs are common.

          However, as people focus on the disastrous consequences and the natural balance of ecosystems, they tend to ignore the benefits the pesticide-resistant crops could bring. Some perspectives predict these crops will help us deal with global food shortages. So, is being so cautious a liability to the solutions for our world's crisis?

          In conclusion, this genetic engineering achievement, pesticide-resistant crops, have difficulties approaching society because people haven't got enough information about them. In that way, we have accidentally ignored some innovations that might work great for the common good. However, fear and hesitation are the habitats that have helped humans to survive since the stone age, so perhaps we should thank them.    

Eurus Thach

The Harmony Between Humans And Machines

          We are living in a modern world full of supplies provided by intelligent machines. Thank the advances in technology, we are able to have more qualified goods and significant science explorations. Hence, intelligent machines help human beings develop and vice versa. However, they also produce problems.

  First, let's get to the idea of how we grow into better through the development of intelligent machines. As the growth of technology, we need to reevaluate our abilities. To have innovations in technology, we need to improve our knowledge. By then, education goes more various. As more scientific achievements we have, as more knowledge for us to purchase. For example, lost of new technological majors appear such as MIS or IT. In other words, the world's knowledge has elaborated to a higher level.

  On the other hand, because intelligent machines are repetitive, high-speed and extremely precise, the low-skill jobs are slowly taken over in our community. Since then, the potentials of the decrease in the unemployment rate is an essential concern. However, I believe there are always ways to work things out. The resilient evidence is the hard time when the economic collapse takes place, we find out solutions and innovations to solve things out. After the rain of the Depressions in history, the country rose up stronger. Take this concern as a Depression, we can push our limits higher than we've ever known. One suggestion is the open schools for the unemployed. Providing them with mechanical and technological knowledge is a way to help them get a new job.

          In contrast, there are perspectives in the society that bring us a limited view of the intelligent machines. By blaming the community's dissonance on them, we tend to forget the fact the conflicts of religions and cultures have more potentials to cause a war than a machine.

          In conclusion, advances in technology have given us chances to overcome or develop the long-standing ideas of what people can be. By that way, we also help the technology grow. It has been proved to be a harmony between humans and machines by the remarkable ways that education developed and myriad scientific achievements.

Eurus Thach